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One thing that holds me back from approaching women is my stammer/stutter. It is not as severe as some stammerers out there but I do experience occasional blocks when talking to people especially new people.
In addition to having approach anxiety when approaching women I feel that having a stammer adds more pressure when wanting to deliver the opener well, have an interesting conversation and sound confident at the same time. Any advice would be helpful and greatly appreciated.
Comment by Vusa — August 12, 2008 @ 4:20 pm
Hi Carlos!Firstly I just want to say Thank You(!) for all your great work(Ive got both your PSprogram and Approach Women NOW)
-You are the best in your field today!!!
Here is my question: How should you approach if your own personality is not the very "talkative and articulate" type by nature?
When Im socializing I easily get tired of it and mostly feel drained if I have to do a lot of "smalltalk". -In conversations I am more of "the listener". Its not that Im shy-on the
contrary, Im a pretty forward person who often take contact with other people and I can talk alot if its about things I feel are important to me-Its just that I dont get my energy from socializing,Instead I get it from either working(-I mostly work alone-as an artist and freelance designer for movies-so thats a pretty introverted type of job so I guess Im an introverted type of person by nature) or I get my energy from reading,listening to music,watching movies or just hanging around with people that gives me energy(-noticed that most of my friends are "talkers" so that way we complete each other)
It seems to me that alot of the "naturals" Ive known in my life have always been very extroverted and talkative by nature-fasttalkers who have seduced women with their creative way of using words-but when these naturals have tried to do "art" or something thats more introverted(like being alone for a longer time and just focus on one thing) they have felt drained like I do when I have to socialize too much.
…Which leads to my next question:
-Could it be so that an "artist" or creative person(like myself)will have to risk loosing his creative energy if he wants to become really good with women? Ive noticed that at times when chasing women has frustrated me Ive switched my focus into working with my art instead and it has "healed" me from my "love wounds".
It has also worked the other way around: during periods that Ive had alot of success with women it has taken alot of my creative energy and Ive not succeeded as good with my work.
So could it be so that its the same "sexual"energy you use when you create art(or music etc) as the energy you use when approaching the opposite sex? If thats so, maybe CurtCobain and others like him should have focused on getting datingskills instead of using the needle…
-But then again,if they had, maybe they never
hd been able to write all those songs and we wouldnt have so much great music to listen to in our world as we have…
Would be so great to hear what you think about all this.
Keep doing your fantastic stuff and stay gold man
-Thanx again!!
Best wishes
//Mattias from Sweden
Comment by Mattias Marklund — August 13, 2008 @ 9:11 am
Hi! I just tried to send you a question but I get a message that says somth like: "Looks like you already said that"…
Ok Ill try again:
Hi Carlos!Firstly I just want to say Thank You(!) for all your great work(Ive got both your PSprogram and Approach Women NOW)
-You are the best in your field today!!!
Here is my question: How should you approach if your own personality is not the very "talkative and articulate" type by nature?
When Im socializing I easily get tired of it and mostly feel drained if I have to do a lot of "smalltalk". -In conversations I am more of "the listener". Its not that Im shy-on the
contrary, Im a pretty forward person who often take contact with other people and I can talk alot if its about things I feel are important to me-Its just that I dont get my energy from socializing,Instead I get it from either working(-I mostly work alone-as an artist and freelance designer for movies-so thats a pretty introverted type of job so I guess Im an introverted type of person by nature) or I get my energy from reading,listening to music,watching movies or just hanging around with people that gives me energy(-noticed that most of my friends are "talkers" so that way we complete each other)
It seems to me that alot of the "naturals" Ive known in my life have always been very extroverted and talkative by nature-fasttalkers who have seduced women with their creative way of using words-but when these naturals have tried to do "art" or something thats more introverted(like being alone for a longer time and just focus on one thing) they have felt drained like I do when I have to socialize too much.
…Which leads to my next question:
-Could it be so that an "artist" or creative person(like myself)will have to risk loosing his creative energy if he wants to become really good with women? Ive noticed that at times when chasing women has frustrated me Ive switched my focus into working with my art instead and it has "healed" me from my "love wounds".
It has also worked the other way around: during periods that Ive had alot of success with women it has taken alot of my creative energy and Ive not succeeded as good with my work.
So could it be so that its the same "sexual"energy you use when you create art(or music etc) as the energy you use when approaching the opposite sex? If thats so, maybe CurtCobain and others like him should have focused on getting datingskills instead of using the needle…
-But then again,if they had, maybe they never
hd been able to write all those songs and we wouldnt have so much great music to listen to in our world as we have…
Would be so great to hear what you think about all this.
Keep doing your fantastic stuff and stay gold man
-Thanx again!!
Best wishes
//Mattias from Sweden
Comment by Mattias Marklund — August 13, 2008 @ 9:15 am
wat if a women says fuck you get loose
Comment by mano — August 13, 2008 @ 11:48 pm