I just posted this video on some of your best questions that I got in the latest survey. I'm also answering some questions about approaching and inner game/confidence in the video.
Just click play below to watch. If you'd like a copy of the survey, click here:
Approach Women Skills Survey - Q&A
Very interesting. I want to use this space to comment on a call you had with a guy recently.
Personally, I don't put female strangers on a pedestal, no matter what she looks like or what she does in life. Actually, I feel better approaching a cute girl I am very attracted to.
My big issue with Day Game is believing that they don't want to be approached, that I will scare them, that they will want to walk off ASAP. Based on my 50 Day approaches so far, this is true for about 2/3 of girls in my case. Why? I'm not sure. I think they can sense my lack of self-confidence and that I don't know what to say after my opener and introduction.
Sam
Comment by Sam Domm — July 25, 2008 @ 1:52 pm
That's very likely the situation.
A lot of guys get the wrong impression about women - that they do not want to be approached - based on the fact that most guys do not do a good job of approaching a woman with the right energy.
What you should do is have someone observe or record you, and then play it back to see what happens.
A very soft but confident manner is all you need during the day, but there is more going on at the "calibration" level.
That's why I plan to include a presentation and ebook about "vibing" with my new program.
I'll probably talk about this coming up in my next video as well…
Stay tuned…
- Carlos
Comment by admin — July 25, 2008 @ 3:50 pm
I agree with Sam. Women do not want to be approached and are scared of men who do approach them during the day. At least around this area of the country (Ohio)they are afraid. So what is the point of trying to learn to approach them? I think most will turn and run.
Comment by Jim — July 25, 2008 @ 4:12 pm
Keep in mind that we fall victim to limiting beliefs based on evidence that we create for ourselves.
We all want to believe our area of the country is different, but I've yet to find a place in the world that is actually different than any other.
If you know the right way to approach, women will not be scared of you.
The key lies in your statement: I think most will turn and run.
You think, but have not not tried this out for yourself.
I'm not ragging on you, just pointing out that it's tempting to make assumptions based from fear.
What if…
What if you approached 20 women, and even if only 3 responded positively and you got her number…
?
That would be 3 more than you have right now.
You see, we focus on the 17, when we should be focusing on the 3.
Don't let assumptions like this corner you into a belief that has not been tried out in the real world.
I can't wait to get you guys the details on how to do this.
Oh, and you'll see me doing this live on hidden camera in a new program from someone else pretty soon, too.
Anyone else have some experience they'd like to share?
Comment by admin — July 25, 2008 @ 10:06 pm
I don't know a lot about picking up women, but I do know this - Carlos is absolutely right. The 3 that go right are much more important than the 17 that go wrong. In fact you don't even need that many - it only takes one. When you go fishing, do you worry about catching a fish on every cast? If you make 5 casts, 10 casts, 20 casts, and don't catch a fish, do you feel rejected and bummed out, like a failure? I doubt you do, if you can make 100 casts and catch 10 good fish. Some days you might catch a few more and some days you'll get skunked, but so what?
Even if you have 99 "failures", all it takes is 1 good success and you'll feel like king of the world. And by the time you get through 100, believe me - you'll be a lot better than when you started and your "catch rate" will go up. I have never in my life seen a woman "run away", even though most had no interest in dating me, and a few didn't even feel like talking at all. So what?
Comment by Jeff — July 30, 2008 @ 8:18 pm