I'm in the process of creating another Q&A session on how to improve your approach skills, but I wanted to share this video podcast with you. In it, I discuss the foundation principle of my "E.D.G.E." method of approaching, which is the "Black Box" concept.
Put simply, you want to use something that gives you a consistent return on your investment (sometimes called "ROI").
Just click play below to watch…
(Oh, and see how many people stare at me as they pass on the beach… Pretty funny…)
(For those of you who are curious, the author I mention in the video is Michael Gerber. He's the author of the E-Myth and many other business system programs.)
Hi Carlos,
You are getting better and better at what your are doing and that makes your advices more and more valuables. The quality of your videos is improving exponentially !
About quantification : This is exactly what everyone should do to improve its dating game. To look at the results of one's actions by quantifying them, and change them accordingly. Hard but rewarding task !
About people passing by and staring during your speech: most of them are fat and/or in couple. Is this the law of attraction in action ? Why didn't you attract beautiful women during your speech ?
About the end video : depressing ! No one is making any approach and I did not see any beautiful women. Just average junkies !
Comment by Mazerolle — July 28, 2008 @ 9:59 pm
Well, I thank you for your kudos on the video.
I have to tell you that this was shot on a public beach on the island. I don't control who walks by. So don't be too depressed, my friend.
But you're right in that we should see some guys approaching… Where are they?
Answer: Not enough of my Greek buddies have my programs.
Comment by Carlos Xuma — July 29, 2008 @ 7:21 am
Hey Carlos,
Why don't you show some video footage of yourself or a protege doing some day game? There are people out there who profess to have great day game and they put the proof out there in live video footage. Some I have seen is pretty impressive. Can you step up to the plate and show some talent?
Stagg
Comment by Stagg — July 29, 2008 @ 7:21 pm
You guys kill me…
Proof is already out there, my friend. Mehow has me coming up on one of his infield hidden camera videos coming soon.
I'm not sure what the need for proof is when YOUR game is what really matters.
Am I right or am I right, boys? Don't worry about me. We're here to get YOU to the next level.
Everything else is just talk.
Here's my challenge to you… Send me your best field report to dissect. I'll do it for free. Send it to me by going to http://www.carlosxuma.com and clicking the contact me link at the bottom of the page.
I'm here for you, guys. Not to brag or impress others about my skills. My ego does not factor into this work.
So let's use that to help you get what you want out of YOUR game…!
Here's the best proof there is about what I can do to help you:
http://www.alphaconfidence.com/praiseforcarlosxuma.php
- Carlos Xuma
Comment by Carlos Xuma — July 29, 2008 @ 8:00 pm
Carlos,
I believe my game in general is pretty good, but of course far from perfect. Thats why I listen and subscribe to you and some others to get little tips.(every little bit helps) I appreciate and understand that this isn't to boost your ego. I just like to see people actualy work their magic "in the field," especially if they're a "guru." Even though you may never have called yourself a guru, you know what I'm saying.
So I can send you some stuff of some of my game during a cold approach, but in what format do you want it? Are you talking about a video or script?
I'll tell you this, I never really approach a girl during the day. All my game is done at bars and clubs. I would like to learn better approach methods for day game. Seems to me the only way to approach a girl during the day is a direct "you are gorgeous" or something like that, which can really be hit or miss.
Comment by Stagg — July 29, 2008 @ 8:22 pm
Hello Carlos,
Very good video and advices, but what did you mean with that no one was approaching? Was that pretty lady alone or both of you were walking down the street? It makes a big difference.
Regards from Sofia, Bulgaria
Comment by A reader — November 29, 2008 @ 12:48 am