For those of you in the Alpha Power Forum, I've been running an ongoing conversation about what frustrates you most about approaching women.
One of the most common frustrations I hear is about why it is that men have to approach women at all. Why don't women take on this role?
Well, I'd like to say that there's no reason, and women should just step up to the plate, but this is one of the biggest lies that feminism spawned upon us.
The lie is this:
Because men and women are treated as "equals," this means that we should throw aside our gender roles because we've suddenly become "enlightened" and now we can stop playing all the games.
Now, when you read that, what did you think?
If you're like most guys, you can identify with what I said, but at a core level you know that this isn't the way of the world.
I can wish I had the passive role in getting together with women, but wanting it to be that way will never make it that way.
That being said, there are ways to get women to do the approaching - in HER own way.
I'm going to be talking about those in a few days in the upcoming videos.
But for now, I'd love to hear your comments about what frustrates you about approaching women. Not just to bitch and moan, but to also talk about what you DO about it.
Just post a comment to this blog entry, or post to the forum where I've got these questions running all the time.
Talk to you soon… I'm going out in the sun to play soccer with some kids.
I'm working like a maniac, but I have to have a little rest…
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- Carlos


Thanks for being an open ear, Carlos. I think I speak for a lot of guys when I say, I hear what you're saying about that frustration with women not being the approachers. I realize in my heart that this is true, but I'm so frustrated with my approaches that I really do wish it was this way, even if it can't be.
Anyway, my other frustration is not knowing how a good approach SHOULD look. I'm really hoping you can show us this in your new program.
Will that be in there? Maybe even with some examples of what NOT to do?
Thanks man….
Comment by Jerry R. — July 26, 2008 @ 4:17 pm
I'm so ready for something new, man…
THe pickup thing sucks, dude. They don't konw shit…
How can I start meeting women without being a fake player type?
That's all I wnt….
Comment by Nedry M. — July 26, 2008 @ 9:24 pm
It's not really that much frustrating in itself — I just need to actually do it more.
But when I do, I think my biggest frustration is I don't understand how my approach leads to the particular response I get.
From my personal experience, a third will have a positive response to my approach, a third just seems indifferent (no need for her to leave but not very positive either) and a third will look for a way to leave. Everyone is different of course. But that aside, what makes a woman want to leave soon in one situation, be indifferent in another or be glad I am talking to her.
Sam
Comment by Sam Domm — July 27, 2008 @ 9:35 am
Yeah, I'm the same way.
I think it's motivation, man.
But I think a 2/3 response is pretty good. I don't think that women are waiting to shoot guys down, like Carlos says.
TC
Comment by Tolle — July 27, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
Yeah, 2/3 is pretty damn good, in fact. Compare this with the response you get in bars and clubs and you'll find that your success rate will actually get higher in ALL locations when you understand Day Game.
You see, the skills you use to talk to women in the REAL world only make you that much more authentic and effective in the bars and clubs.
It's pretty amazing, actually.
Comment by Carlos Xuma — July 28, 2008 @ 3:26 pm
I think one of the things that frustrates me when approaching women is that some of the women seem to have a naturally friendlier personality than other women and many times I seem to confuse this with an interest in me and I seem to spend time going after them only to find out later that they were not interested.
Comment by Anthony — July 30, 2008 @ 9:06 pm
Good point… it's easy to over-invest if you don't know what to look for.
I cover this topic in the new program, and there are some tests for this you can do to cut it off.
I may get to this on the teleconference next week.
(Watch for the email…!)
CX
Comment by Carlos Xuma — July 30, 2008 @ 9:21 pm