Hey, I've been reading a lot of the mail you guys are sending in, and the great questions you've got about Real Alpha Daygame.
I'm currently planning a teleseminar to address a lot of those questions, so watch this weekend and you'll get more information on that. It's coming up this week…
But I also want to take this opportunity to point a couple of things out to you guys that might have a little trouble with this concept of "Daygame."
What really IS "Daygame?"
Very simply it's meeting women anywhere.
ANYWHERE.
Let me try that in a bigger font:
ANYWHERE!!
You see, bars and clubs seem to be all that guys think of when they think about meeting women. But there is a wide and undiscovered country out there where we are able to meet women:
- in the park
- at a friend's party
- at a business event
- at the gym
- in a coffee shop
- at a cocktail party
- at a library or bookstore…
Literally there is an infinite number of places out there to meet women that we are not using right now.
It's not just about walking up and talking to women cold on the street.
You see, I've talked to a lot of guys who have very strong beliefs about meeting women in everyday places. They seem to be scared to death of it because the woman will be guarded… cautious…
After all, you're a stranger!
Guys, you don't have to have anyone "approve" of where you meet a woman.
You don't need to meet a woman in certain designated areas. Regardless of what we think women MIGHT be thinking about it.
Whenever I talk to a couple, I ask them how they met. The women tend to romanticize the first meeting, but the guys always tell the facts.
Most of them met at a store, or in a gym, or in places where the guy simply sucked it up and did the unthinkable…
He approached her!
In fact, I did a certain hidden camera video just a couple weeks ago. I met a woman in the Apple Store and we had a GREAT conversation and connection.
Last night, after 2 weeks, SHE CALLED ME.
I haven't initiated any contact since then, but she called me up and left a 2 minute message.
How cool is THAT?
And, honestly, it wasn't a very spectacular approach. I just started talking with her for no reason.
She was a stranger.
Now she's a possibility for me. One that I would never have had if I had let the thought: "She doesn't know me - she's going to be scared of me" get into my head.
Repeat after me:
ALL limitations are self-imposed!
Stay tuned…
I've got more great stuff coming up…
Go check out the videos on the blog here:
http://www.realdaygame.com/approachblog/
Your Day-walker friend,
Carlos Xuma
PS: Thanks to all you guys who send me your questions and concerns. I'm even more convinced than ever that creating this new program is exactly what guys everywhere need to take their approach game to the next level.
Remember, every relationship starts with an approach.
Hey Carlos,
I have a question for you. I was actually discussing this with a playa friend of mine earlier.
I've enjoyed your advice on approach anxiety and find it to be very true and helpful, but…the one way I've really been helped with the approach is by mentally rehearsing the interaction going well. I've learned to do that before I approach rather than thinking up the many excuses and all imagining it all going bad like I used. Hey, sometimes that still happens.
The problems I'm facing now are the off-chances of when a woman approaches me or leaves an opening for me to approach. Part of the shock of being approached seems to completely freeze me.
The fact no-one really talks about what to do when the girl approaches you means I have no plan which makes me less confident.
The infrequancy of these events means I don't get to 'practice' at it and become comfortable with it.
I want to feel prepared for the next time this happens.
Here are a few examples:-
1. I chill back with my bro's having a drink. I see a beautiful lady dancing. We make eye contact. She walks off the dance floor until she is right next to me and dances right in front of me
- my thought processes "is she dancing for me?"
"am I supposed to play it cool and let her impress me or grab her and caveman her? - would grabbing her be low value and needy? would hanging back and just appreciating her be more abundant and prove I don't need her? What if I mess it up?" after dancing infront of me for a bit she looks at my friend, then back at me and then leaves. I presume I 'accidentally rejected' her.
2. A girl in the street during the day walks up to you and asks you to take a picture of her next to something (or for a cigerrette or some other favour)
-I always feel 'tooled' but I'm a nice guy so I normally comply. My mind goes blank because I don't want to start off with cheesey "so your a tourist" questions and her asking for a photo doesn't necessarily mean attraction.
-What's the best way to be flirty but not creepy in this situation?
Comment by Vince — August 6, 2008 @ 3:14 pm