Why don't you go approach some women and ask them and find out?

Sounds like speculation that never gets validated, Staffan.

That is absolutely NOT the case, if the person does it in a way that isn't lewd or creepy.

Observe really balanced and stable women (not the bitches) and how they handle guys who aren't very visually appealing when they approach. They handle it very politely and with aplomb.
(and I do, too…)

You can't filter your approachers like a google search. You have to take the good with the not-so-good.

Bottom line - Women really do want men to approach. So unless you're the 50 year old overweight MAN, what are you worried about?

Let's stop arguing for the exceptions out there and argue for the reality that is not stuck in "I'm scared" thinking, guys.

Just get out there and DO IT!

Jeez.

-M

I have a great idea for a future teleseminar. How about talking about how men should handle themselves AFTER the first date?

Thanks.

Robert

My first question for day time approach Teleseminar event is very stupid — how to look at women who are walking by? This is something I have been struggling for a long time. If I see a woman walking towards my direction, I will notice her from say 20 feet away, from that point until we pass by, this is the time I have no idea how to look at her.

I know I will be nervious, I know the voice in my head will be telling me "Don't let her know you are looking at her, it's rude, it's not good to let her know you are checking her out." So for most of the time, we just never make eye contact. For those time that we do make eye contact, I don't know how to look at her. I have learned from some gurus that you should not look away until she looks away, but it doesn't help me much. Especially if she is a beautiful girl, I always get this unfriendly, cold, or snobbish reaction from her face while she looks away. The worst feeling I get is when she looks as if she knows she is too good for me, and she will "arrogantly look away".

A lot of time I can't approach women during the day time is because of that. I feel like I already "communicated" with her and I already lost.

The next question is of course, what to say when I don't know what to say, I am sure this is a common one for everybody. How to vibe with her without falling into "friend zone"?

This will be my question, please advice

Thanks Carlos

I happen to work in an environment where I see and talk with around 100 women a day at a store. I can literally tell you from personal experience about 90% of the ladies are surprised at first when I say hello. The other 10% may be but hide it better and return the hello. Usually it's a combination of both and make it clear they appreciate it. I've gotten to know many women other guys I work with get tongue tied over and we have a great time teasing, talking and enjoying our time together.

I have had several make it clear other things were available and if I didn't have other commitments, I would. It's fascinating to see how just getting over the whole approach anxiety crap helps you to pay more attention to her, her clues and her reactions instead of being caught up in your own head games. I've watched other guys I work with get shot down big time because they do the whole "deer in the headlights" routine while they talk to them and ask for a number. It's not that she isn't interested, it's she can tell right off they have no confidence. They're more worried about getting shot down than succeeding.

Get over it already! I literally don't care one way or the other because if she's stuck up, she's not worth my time anyway. If she attempts to shoot me down, I shake my head and move on to something else. Trust me, I've had several try to restart things. When it gets to be a natural part of you to greet women you meet as if it's just a part of being polite, you find it's a lot easier than you ever thought and there's a lot more to women who used to make you nervous once you get past it.

I'm not a PUA nor am I interested in being one. I don't practice my lines, openers or "work" the room. The most common comment I make is the simplest, "How are you today?" and look them right in the eye, wait for an answer and move the conversation according to how she answers. I have had only 2 - yes TWO - women out of several thousand I've talked to fail to respond in a friendly, open way.

A few have told me it's because it's such a simple way to say hello and it's clear I honestly want to know how they are doing and I'm not afraid to look them in the eye while I wait for an answer. What could be simpler? Back in the olden days when men wore hats everywhere, it was extremely rude to not tip their hat and acknowledge a woman you passed by. Maybe if you changed your thinking to seeing this as being polite, a simple acknowledgment she is a woman and you appreciate her, it might make it easier to see how she could interpret your NOT saying something as rude. Especially if you have eye contact and you say nothing, how can you not expect her to be offended, think you're either a wuss or just another player wannabe with no game?

It gets to be a lot of fun and you soon find you have no worries about it any more. You're just being nice and if she wants to be rude, her problem and for remember it's her problem, not yours.

Have great one, just be yourself, take a deep breath and ask her how she's doing. Your results will surprise you…

David

But then again, that fear is probably just proof that I need to get out of the house more and meet more women on the street versus just sitting home watching T.V. and letting mainstream media dictate to me what women want or what it means to be an Alpha Man.