Here's the Inner Game of the "Jerk" - A little 'Shark Bite…'
FJ SHARK: The Social Sales Pitch—Who’s Selling Who?
It’s been said that:
“The illusion that one woman differs
from another is called– love.”
Who would be crazy enough to pay an inflated premium price for a depreciating product that is selling at its all time high; sold to you from a manipulative salesperson who wanted you to sign a contract stating that if you ever decided to default, it would cost you half of you assets and a garnishment of your income for years in the future? The answer is: the thousands of men that marry women every day!
What if I was even willing to tell you that the person selling the product knew ahead of time that it was highly addictive, and that the cost of goods sold (“COGS” for you accounting majors) was equal to zero, which translates to any price being pure profit - - Now how do you feel about it?
Women are selling themselves with the same sales pitch that is used for cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs that have expensive prices, cheap highs and a monopoly on an increasing price –which is the result of addiction to the product. They use what I call their “sexual sales pitch” in order to get you emotionally involved with them, which eliminates any sense of logic your friends and family might try to pound into your head.
It’s true, in its natural form, the word illusion means: to deceive one’s intellect. When are men at their most vulnerable point in their life and really feel they need someone to believe in them? The answer is between the ages of 20 to 30 as they are just starting a new career that they have been preparing for years. Wow! What a coincidence! That is exactly the same time frame that women are pitching their “product” in order to get what I call the “Ultimate Sale” - - Marriage!
I’ve always said that:
“Women are the Best
Salespeople in the World!
A Salesperson’s Greatest Challenges,
Mental Satisfaction,
And Highest Emotional Highs
are Created from Making a Sale
to Those Who Were NEVER Interested
to Begin with.
This is Why the Customers
That Don’t Look ‘Hungry’
Will Always Be Fed.”
You wouldn’t ever be dumb enough to keep chasing a used car salesperson and do business only when they had nothing better to do would you? So why would you even consider running after another salesperson trying to sell you her over-priced, depreciating product in the Social Marketplace? Her product probably already has too many miles put on it from all the other drivers who managed to blow her engine by “putting it to the test” and “seeing what that baby can do!”
I’m not saying to only drive cars with no miles on them (i.e. virgins) because some products such as boats, airplanes and helicopters, are actually more valuable when they have a year or so of experience than when they were first built because it proves that they function properly. Not to mention classic antique cars that are worth 100’s of times more than they were the year they were first made. All I am suggesting is that she have her best times and most fun when she is with you, not through memories of somebody else.
If men get to “buy into” all that expensive, depreciating, addictive, legally binding good stuff–what are women getting in return? They are buying into men at their all time lowest point financially, with the security of a steady paycheck, which will add to the appreciation of his net-worth (and hopefully early retirement—for her because women usually out live men!).
So let’s get this straight. Men buy into a physically attractive, depreciating woman at their all time “beauty high” (20-30 years old) after they have had all their fun with Jerks and offered much lower prices for more, emotional, mental and sexual service in the past. Because it was at its all time high, it now has nowhere to go but down. Women buy into financially appreciating men at their all time “financial low” (20-30 years old) and because it’s usually at its all time low, has nowhere to go but up. What a great deal! Where do I sign? - - NOT!
Street smart beautiful women don’t have to go to school and study incredibly boring subjects with hopes of getting out in the real world and finding a job. All they have to do is keep themselves physically attractive and wait for some Nice-guy to complete college and find a well paying career or start a business. All the while they are dating she gets to play a game of cat and mouse with him by leading him around by the nose and making him believe he’s chasing her. Then you’ll see the meaning behind the old female phrase that says: “I’ll let him chase me, till I catch him.”
Hmmm.
Ask an older woman about this phrase, I’m sure they’ve heard it before. Surprisingly enough, it’s usually the guy that brings up the idea of marriage by this time, and women have all they can do to keep from laughing.
The reason I say they are laughing is because it is equivalent to the customer selling himself on the product and closing himself on the deal without any effort on the part of the salesperson. It’s as if the salesperson was running around chasing other sales from prospective buyers and then when they realize that their time is running out (i.e. biologically clock is ticking), they finally settle for the best qualified buyer (with a good credit score and predictable income) that is still around.
To top it off, they even act like you’re bothering them. Then they act like they are doing you a favor by letting you pay for their product. Then when they’re done laughing all the way to the bank, they’re laughing all the way to a tropical vacation that you paid for. And you probably couldn’t go on the tropical vacation because you were too busy working in order to pay for the tropical vacation. She’ll probably be forced to settle for going on the trip with her girlfriends who are busy doing the same thing to their husbands and boyfriends.
Hello?
Do you see a pattern here?
This is why it’s important for women to have their own career, their own business and their own money. If women earn their own money they can appreciate the value of a dollar and more importantly you can worry a little less about them taking and abusing your money. I believe women are better at business because they are better at relationships and that’s what good business is built on. It’s definitely a better choice to be partners with a woman and have the advantage of putting all of her networking ability to use for you, rather than trying to go up against it.
I highly encourage women to use their great selling skills, negotiating techniques and persuasion power to good use in the business and make the world a better place. If you’re with a woman who uses her skills to sell and influence others in the business world you’ll be able to see her techniques up close and personal without the harmful side effects. The other good news is that you’ll also be able to see it coming a mile away because you’ll know what to look for. That way you can easily and playfully call her on any B.S. she might throw your way.
If there is one point you remember from this entire book, remember that in the Social Marketplace men are not the sales people who should be focusing on selling the benefits they have to offer such as college, a business, and a career but rather - - Women are the salespeople, and they are the best!
Forget about impressing a woman’s parents with where you work and what your Father does for a living because women are the ones with their biological clocks ticking because they know they’re not getting any younger!
Women are the ones that need to find a buyer for their depreciating product because just like on the high school track team, it’s not only the runners against each other, it’s the runners against the clock.
My grandfather told me years ago never to get married until I was at least 30 years old. At the time, I had no idea why he was telling me to wait for what I thought was an eternity. He already knew that the prices of women drop substantially around that age because women are more open and willing to give you a great deal on their product, the same way a used car salesperson is trying to unload this year’s model because next year’s new and improved “models” with a more sleek look and sexier appeal will be in the showroom soon.
Every woman on the planet lives in fear of the idea that every day they grow older and things on their body are starting to droop, wrinkle and sag. If they didn’t, then the cosmetic industry wouldn’t exist and plastic surgeons would go broke. I remember when I heard a President from one of the world’s leading cosmetic company’s saying in a press conference that he believes that her company doesn’t sell cosmetics, they sell “hope”.
Women know that every day the competition in the Social Marketplace is flooded with women with their young, hot and tight bodies coming into the local nightclub to celebrate their 21st birthdays. That’s why women say things like: “Will you just look at that one over there with all the men around her, what a little slut.”
What she’s really saying is: “That young girl with the sexy body just increased the competition for every woman in here and decreased the attention I’ll be receiving from men. Now I’ll have to lower my expectations (i.e. price) to what man I can attract (i.e. sell my product to). As long as women are trying to sell us their product, we might as well respond and act like the smartest investors and consumers in the world:
Shop around. Play the field. The only thing that truly keeps prices down is competition. Keeping an uncommitted relationship helps keep you costs down because women are lowering their prices as they try desperately to plant themselves in your mind. Women already know men think about sex every 8 seconds, they just want to get enough air time for their product.
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
Thanks to FJ for this…
I always feel like slamming my book shut and saying, "Thus endeth the lesson" after I read from the Book of Jerk. 
Seriously, though…
One of the reasons I chose FJ to be a big contributor to my Ultimate Inner Game is that he really understands this key difference in how the "Jerk" thinks versus how the "Nice Guy" thinks. And when you get it, this usually solves a bunch of problems upping your game with women.
Neither FJ nor I want you to think this is some kind of "rant" against women, or that there's some hidden anger here against women.
Not so at all.
The only anger I've got is that guys aren't snapping out of their old mindsets quickly enough and getting this thinking under their control.
Winning the inner game of attraction is easy - when you know how to play the inner game to win.
