The Silent Killer of Inner Game…
The Silent Killer of Success with Women – and How to Stop It
Or
How to Get Rid of Shame
I love being in my garden in the backyard of my house in San Francisco… It's a classic hidden oasis in the middle of a bustling international city. On sunny days I'll go back there and chillax beneath my favorite tree.
However, for some time now, I've been noticing that my tree isn't doing so well. In fact, week after week, it's been looking sicker and weaker. Bark has started to peel off, and branches are becoming dead and brittle. WTF?!
So this week I decided to take a closer look and I finally found the culprit:
A weed. A really big, vine-like, monster-sized weed that looked like it was choking the life out of my tree.
When I saw it, it was like I had caught a criminal: "A-ha! GOTCHA!"
So I grasped the weed and gave it a sharp tug. Then I gasped. All around me, the whole back yard seemed to shake!
This f***ing weed had worked it's way through every tree in my back yard!
It must have been there for years… at first just a small sprout at the base of the huge trunk. But it began to grow, slowly and imperceptibly wrapping itself around the trunk of the tree, making its way toward the top, unnoticed. Eventually it was completely restricting the tree, sufficating its growth… and doing this to almost every other plant in the yard.
This is similar to one of the most crippling "inner game" sticking points - it's incredibly elusive and hard to catch. And even though I find it to be THE single most common sticking point, nobody talks about it for two very big reasons:
1) By its very nature, like a weed on a tree, it is designed to blend in. Because we don't notice it, it doesn't show up in our awareness. And…
2) Nobody wants to admit the grip that this insidious element has on them. And so it continues to OWN them…
This Inner Game "weed" that I'm referring to is…
SHAME.
Yep. Shame. We feel shame when there is any part of ourselves that we don't fully and completely accept, any part of ourselves that we think is "wrong" or "bad" or "not good enough."
Shame grows gradually, mostly unnoticed, purposefully ignored, throughout our lives. It doesn't seem very important… until one day you wake up and realize it has become a monstrous weed choking your vitality, energy, self-image and especially…your connecting with women.
And that's only if you're aware enough to notice it in the first place! Otherwise, it's just a nagging feeling and a growing sense of frustration about how your ability to create attraction and connection with women feels squelched and "choked off"… and you don't know why!
The Ultimate Weed Whacker of Shame
However, there is one thing that I know of that is the ultimate "weed whacker" of shame:
Presence.
See, the weeds of shame don't like to be seen. Shame is designed to make you think there is no separation between "it" (the weed) and "you" (the tree).
With Presence, however, you can finally see how this sneaky little organism has worked its way all through your life, and you can you start pulling it out by the roots. Without Presence, shame can choke the life out of you, and your interactions with women.
Bryan Bayer
CEO, Authentic Man Program
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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:
Most guys are unaware of just how much shame is ruining their inner game.
Let's face it - in the last 20-30 years, men have been put in the position of having their inner game crushed because media and society (and yes, to some degree, women) have made us ashamed of who we are and what we are as MEN.
Men are sexual creatures that love the look and form of women.
From naked boobies to the nether regions, women are just a treat and delight to behold - clothed or unclothed.
Does this mean we don't appreciate and cherish the INNER elements of femininity?
Absolutely not… We love the parts of women that make them so wonderful to be around. When a woman knows how to be feminine, I find it the most erotically exciting kind of interaction.
Weeding out any shame in your life should be a top priority for you, and something that I'm targeting in the new "Ultimate Inner Game" stuff I've got for you…
Stay tuned for more from our guest speakers in the next couple days… and a new video coming VERY soon…
