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I forgive them all for everything because it was not their fault. At the time they were victims also and just playing their part in my / their stories.

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

WOW, thanks man… I'm always jazzed up when I find that someone I've collaborated with (Fader is in the new Ultimate Inner Game program) has the same understanding and perceptions regarding confidence with women.

I talk about this in the new program as well, as being our stories, and how we all have a hand in creating this story of our life.

But ultimately only one person will write that story down permanently, and that's YOU.

VERY soon, I'm going to show you how to re-write that story the way YOU want it to be read - and lived.

ULTIMATE INNER GAME…

Bulletproof Self-Confidence…

Total Social & Sexual Success.

This is…

Forming the Approach Habit

- Keychain

‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.’ Aristotle

Most of us are awake and moving about the world during the day far more than at night.

We shop, we work, we eat and we travel. For those of us who live in or near a populated

area like a city, there are lots of opportunities to meet beautiful women in the daytime.

When I first arrived at university, I would go out at night with my friends to meet girls.

Perhaps three or four times a week we would hit the club and spend hours approaching

groups of women and hitting on them. Later, after finding the community and armed

with new knowledge, I would increase this practice and often go alone to bars and clubs

to meet new people and exercise my social muscle. I felt nervous at first but after a

couple of approaches in an evening this feeling would fade. After that, it was as if my

motor was running, I’d have a sense of flow, excitement and social lubrication. After

those initial nervous conversations, I felt acclimatised to approaching strangers and

could work on other aspects of my game beyond the opening.

Inevitably, the night would end, with all its various ups and downs. I’d go to sleep, wake

up in the morning. Lo and behold, the next time I went out to the bar, that fear of

approach was once again back to bother me.

Going out for a big session of ‘sarging’, as the community slang refers to it, is great for

practicing core aspects of your game but something we are not practicing as intensely is

overcoming that initial reluctance to approach, often referred to as ‘approach anxiety’.

This is simply because after a couple of interactions, this feeling fades. After that initial

warm-up period, we usually find the social motor is running, we’re having fun and

opening without too much worry. It doesn’t last. Every time we go out, this feeling tends

to crop up to be overcome once again.

It is generally accepted that this is just the way it must be. The oft-prescribed solution is

to ‘burn’ through some warm-up sets to get in the right mood. But what if it was

possible to greatly minimise that feeling of nervousness over time so that you could

generate the momentum to approach at any time to wish without the need to ‘warm

up’? What if there was a way to form a habit of approaching beautiful girls?

Picture the scene, you’re shopping for groceries, on public transport or walking down

the street and you see a beautiful girl. You don’t have the advantage of the mental run-

up from making a conscious decision to ‘go sarging’, you have no wingmen to spur you

on, you can’t just burn through two or three sets to get on a roll and then approach the

girl. You’re just going about your daily life and ‘bam!’, a hot girl appears! Do you

approach? Can you approach?

Forming the Approach Habit.

‘Approach the first hot girl you see every day. It will change your life.’ – Sasha

Begin an interaction with a stranger, preferably a beautiful woman, everyday. This

begins to form an approach habit – the daily habit of initiating conversation with

someone from cold. Over time, this habit can become so ingrained that it will actually

feel strange not to approach a hot girl. The energy that you previously experienced as

fear and panic will morph into excitement, playfulness and enjoyment.

This will not only help you greatly minimise approach anxiety, but the daily routine will

have you meeting more girls than ever before.

Training Your Eye

Forming the approach habit will also go a long way towards training your eye to become

aware of the opportunities already present in your surroundings. If you know you need

to approach at least one girl in your lunch break for instance, you get good at noticing

the attractive girls all around you.

It is not unusual, a week or so into this, for students to say things along the lines of, ‘I

never realised there were so many hot girls around here!’ Sometimes we can work and

live in an area for years without realising the opportunities all around us.

Don’t Run the Perfect Set

Don’t worry about running the perfect set in every one of these interactions. At first,

don’t even worry about continuing the conversation. If you are short on time, just make

your daily interaction a quick one. Remember, we are forming the approach habit. For

this purpose, it is more important at first to approach than to close. Don’t let the

pressure of ‘what do I say next’ and ‘what if…’ questions dissuade you from taking

action.

When you spot that girl, and you get that feeling of ‘I should/could/can/want to

approach her’ – go talk to her. If it lasts ten seconds or ten minutes, it doesn’t matter –

just approach. Form the approach habit.

Avoid Burnout

‘Habit is habit and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs

a step at a time.’ Mark Twain

It’s much like joining a gym. In the first flush of enthusiasm and novelty, the temptation

is to go very frequently and stay for hours, working really hard. But continue down this

road and it is very likely you’ll experience burn out. You lose your motivation and weeks

go by before you darken the gym door again (if at all!). It is much more sensible (and

healthy) to do shorter workouts and ration that drive for the long haul health benefits of

regular exercise.

Consider this point when embarking on your mission to form the approach habit. One a

day for a month is far better than ten in two days, burning out and flaking for the rest of

the month.

Find Your Window

Look at your lifestyle, find the window of time where you can make your daily approach

and stick to it. For me, I had a long commute, so I would use the train journey and

approach at least one girl on the way into London and one on the way out of London.

For you’re your lunch break might be and ideal time. Whatever it is, find your window.

Scale It Up

It can feel more challenging to approach during the day without a wing to encourage

you.

If you’re alone and feeling nervous, just take off some pressure. Scale the opener you

use – if you’re petrified, you don’t have to start direct and ballsy, start more situational

and low-key. For example, a functional opener such as, ‘Hey excuse me, do you know if

there’s a Starbucks around here?’ is much easier to muster the courage to deliver than ‘I

saw you from across the street and I just had to come say hi…because I think you’re

gorgeous!’ If you gradually scale up your material, just as you would add weight to your

bench press routine, you will be able to deliver the latter opener with ease and

enthusiasm.

Fashion

If you’re going to form this habit, be ready. Always leave the house dressed well,

whatever that means for your lifestyle. Throw out your bad clothes so you won’t be

tempted to wear them – don’t let the fact that you’re dressed badly be an excuse to not

approach. Dressing well has a positive impact on your interactions with everyone in your

life.

Wing/Mentor

Your daily approaches should be done solo for maximum growth, but it can help to have

a wing or accountability buddy who will check in with you every day to make sure

you’ve done your approach. This added motivation can give you the kickstart you need

to start forming the habit.

Conclusion

Does this mean no more sarging? No!

‘Sarging’ is great for getting your game tight – perhaps your attraction phase needs

tweaking or your comfort game lacks connection. Go out, hit the clubs and bars, do a

ton of sets. The trick is to combine this with daily approaching to build and sustain the

approach habit and you’ll go a long way towards achieving your relationship goals.

I often think of the ability to approach as a muscle. For every approach you make, you

grow that muscle. For every approach you back out of, you weaken it.

Make those approaches, build your courage. The results may very well astound you.

Good luck!

Keys

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Great stuff, man. (Keychain is one of the contributors to my new Ultimate Inner Game program.)

I know that a lot of guys think of approach anxiety first when they think about the whole "inner game" and confidence part of their life.

We'd like to think that it's having something cool to say that makes all the difference in approaching women, but it's actually meaningless.

I've had guys walk up to women and say random things like "I'm happier in the morning" or "I like pop tarts."

In fact, the more random the opener, the more you'll spike her curiosity.

It's all in the attitude that backs you up, and that's all part of ULTIMATE inner game.

Want to get your game Bulletproof?

Stay tuned…

Well, he's also participating in the new Ultimate Inner Game project, and he's recorded some new content for me. I thought I'd share this article he wrote for you…
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Developing Inner Game by Cajun

Inner game is probably one of the most popular subjects in the community. It’s a major sticking point for nearly everyone who has trouble talking to women and it’s a problem that can be difficult to fix as well, since it tends to be rooted in a lifetime’s worth of negative beliefs that are based on things like fear and rejection. Inner game is also a topic that I think can only be discussed from a personal level, that is, I can’t convince you how to think or look at life differently, only you can, but I can tell you how I overcame the very same problems, and hope that you can learn from my experiences.

So what is it?

To me, inner game problems boils down to two things: your experience and your mindset. Every problem you run into with not just women, but life itself, can be attributed to one of these two areas. I’m going to get into both of these, and give some personal insights, so hopefully by the end of this article you’ll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues.

Experience:

When people ask me how I developed my “Rock solid confidence”, I always answer the same; “Practice”. When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that its simply doing something that you’ve done enough times to be comfortable with. It’s only when were thrown into situations that are unfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves. The sad and somewhat ironic reality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don’t talk to women! It’s a negative feedback loop that’s perpetuated by a fear of “what might go wrong”. This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thing that enables you to get better!

Think about it this way; when you were learning to ride a bike, were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe, but you got on anyway because you saw how much fun all the other kids were having, even then you realized that the reward was worth the risk. Well this is the same thing, I remember when I first started out with this stuff I used to get drinks thrown in my face, told off, or simply ignored. The first few weeks were rough; it took me a while before I got used to rejection enough that I could understand where I went wrong. Getting used to rejection isn’t easy, but the best advice I can give you is to simply accept it, don’t get mad at her or yourself, don’t go home, just accept that it’s a completely normal, and necessary part of the learning process. You can’t make an omelette without breaking some eggs. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil, the sooner you can come to terms with it and move past it.

Mind Set:

Most of us grew up in a society that believed in a 2 concentric circle model of reality. That is, the outer circle being reality, or the world around us, and the inner circle being our consciousness. We experience the outer circle; reality, through our inner circle; our consciousness. This is how we believed reality worked; that our consciousness was independent of it…but recently this all changed.

We are now learning through quantum physics that reality is actually the inner circle, and that our consciousness is the outer circle. That is; reality exists inside our mind, we create our own reality with our thoughts (Or beliefs, if you’d rather).

What does this mean?

As far as any of us know, there may only be 1 reality; your own. Who’s to say I’m not a figment of your imagination, your reality, writing this entire article out to send a message to YOU, from your subconscious mind. It’s possible.

The truth is, whether any of us actually exist or not is irrelevant. Life is a game, and it’s a game that a lot of people are scared to play. Don’t be one of them.

I recently received an email from a student of mine asking about the power of beliefs, and how they work. I replied with the following:

“Think of it this way: what if, let’s say, 15 years from now programmers invent this computer game that is virtually identical to reality. The AI is so smart you can’t tell it’s not a real person. The five senses are so accurately programmed that there is no detectable difference to reality. Now, you get to play this game, but the programmer tells you some hints on how to play, he says this:

“This software is programmed to work intuitively with your brain. So, if you want to be, let’s say, a rich Casanova in the game, then all you have to do is believe that you ARE a rich Casanova, and you will become one. The trick is you have to actually believe it, and then the program takes care of the rest. In fact you can have, and be anything you want in this program as long as you ask for it using these “beliefs”. Think of it as your “console hack”"

I’m sure you saw this coming, but this “game” already exists and it’s called reality. You become who you believe you are.”

Sound a little like the matrix? Well that’s ok, like I said; I can only give advice on inner game from my own personal perspective and this is simply how I believe reality works.

I’ll end this article with something that I’ve never written about before:

I remember the very night that I became good at attracting women, I remember because I had an epiphany that night and it was so mind-blowing that I had to write it down as soon as I came home. It has since become my mantra, and I know that if down the road I ever forget everything that I’ve learned in the past few years, all I will have to do is read this piece of paper and it will all come back. What does the paper say?

“The secret to becoming amazing at attracting women is…to remember that you already are.”

- Cajun

"Relax And Have Fun…The Girls Love You"

Back in seventh grade, to say I had virtually zero skill with MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) would have been an understatement.

Even though I was from a very middle-class family, a series of events had landed me at one of the most exclusive private schools for rich kids in the Baltimore metro area.

From the very first day, I knew I didn't fit in there.

Being the "new kid", I didn't even have any friends anymore. I had to start from zero, which is a challenge for any seventh grader changing schools.

But in this case, I also could tell instantly that I didn't have the right clothes. I didn't have the right "pedigree", or whatever. I was clearly low-man on the social "totem pole" in just about every way.

It didn't take long for my already suspect pre-pubescent self-image to take a nosedive.

But meanwhile, something really odd was happening.

Even as I was feeling completely alienated, I started getting attention from some very, very cute girls.

Maybe it was simply because I was new. Maybe it was because I was different. Who knows? But they were talking to me…and being FRIENDLY.

Now, I realize these are seventh graders we're talking about, but when you're a seventh grader the most heavenly MOTOS on Earth typically happen to be seventh graders like yourself.

So when the attention started to come from girls who were not only cute but smart, socially popular and dressed in the most expensive clothes possible, my brain started to play tricks on me.

But what really fried my circuits was that their last names tended to be the same as people like my U.S. Congressman, the weatherman on Channel 13 and last year's Cy Young Award winner from the Baltimore Orioles.

You had to be kidding me. Why would these girls even TALK to me?

It was the "Too Good To Be True Factor" in its purest form.

So, of course, I did what many of us as guys-young OR old-would do: I assumed they weren't serious. They MUST be making fun of me.

And that's what I accused them of. As some bizarre sort of "protection mechanism", I at best ignored them, sometimes rejected them, and in particularly grim moments called them out on their cruel "trickery".

Before you know it, it all became a self-fulfilling prophecy. They really DID start to dislike me. They began to make fun of me-for real.

And thirty years later, I now know why. I had led.

During that fateful seventh grade year, one of the coolest teachers we had was Mr. Green. As a recent college grad and an All-American lacrosse player, he had been hired to be a coach but doubled as an English teacher.

Looking back, I'm sure he had pretty solid skills with women. All the girls loved him, and there were even rumors about the seventh grade Math teacher…

At the end of the year, when yearbooks came out, he wrote something particularly interesting in mine. It read as follows:

"Relax and have fun. The girls love you. -Chris Green"

The simple fact that any teacher would sign a seventh grade kid's yearbook with his first name was cool enough. But the message itself amazed me.

Unfortunately, it would take several more years and finally getting kicked out of private school for bad behavior for me to realize that perhaps what he was saying was true.

And even then, it would take MANY more years to really "get it".

So many of us as guys have NO PROBLEM talking to women we are marginally attracted to, yet we completely blow it with women we can't quite yet see as "attainable".

Usually, "unattainable" is synonymous with "ones we really like".

Within the past couple of days, the idea has hit me like a lightning bolt that this is often because we tend to suffer from what I call a "Limiting Belief In Reverse" (LBIR).

You know what a "limiting belief" is by now. You're too poor, too old, or too SOMETHING to get the women you want.

And you also know by now that I believe that it's unreasonable to assume that ALL WOMEN think like you do about your "limiting beliefs".

Well, here's how the LBIR works.

Basically, when you see a woman you REALLY like, you assume she HAS NO FAULTS, and that she has UNLIMITED ABILITY to attract ANY guy she wants and GET WHATEVER SHE WANTS from them.

In other words, as you believe you are inherently unworthy, you ascribe ULTIMATE, PERFECTED "WORTHINESS" to her.

It's the opposite of a "limiting belief". As some sort of way to underscore your own limitations, you ascribe goddess-like perfection to her in order to further insulate yourself from self-blame when you don't approach her, or when you screw up the first date.

But see, just like a "limiting belief" robs YOU of potential success, the LBIR has a similar-but reversed-effect.

The LBIR robs HER of an equal opportunity to find out what kind of high-level "Big Four" guy YOU are.

By assuming she's "unattainable", you've pre-DISqualified her in a sense.

And guess what? When we view the world like this, it's really just because of our own ARROGANCE.

That's right…I said it. When you pre-judge women as "unattainable" simply because they are YOUR EXACT "TYPE", you've made an unfair assessment that ignores HER potential input on the matter.

You make a decision on her behalf that she won't like you. It's kind of like saying, "My way AND the highway", if you think about it.

In the real world, I've noticed that while it's true that none of us can be all things to all MOTOS, the actual pattern in which women DO respond favorably to a particular guy typically has little to do with the "type" of women that guy would guess he'd "look good with", be more attracted to, etc.

In fact, and perhaps shockingly, some of the women who aren't our "type" like us A LOT. Others, not so much.

And here it is: While it's true not every woman who is your vision of female perfection will like you, it's equally true that SOME WILL. A lot. Perhaps even as much as YOU LIKE THEM.

But just like you've got to do away with "Limiting Beliefs", you've got to do away with LBIRs also. And the latter is the step that I think MANY, MANY of us overlook, don't we?

Why?

Because we are always taught to focus on ourselves. OUR inner game. OUR outer game.

And when we don't get out of our own heads, we often fail to see the perspective of the exact women we'd like to attract.

Even when your game is solid, you've got to be able to see the proverbial "forest for the trees" when it comes to women. You can't make their decisions for them when it comes to attraction…even though that doesn't stop us from trying, apparently.

So in two simple words, stop it. Being a "Big Four" man, give perfectly reasonable women, albeit amazing ones, the simple chance to make their own decisions about you.

Will you get EVERY ONE of them? No.

Will you get A LOT more of them than if you pre-DISqualified ALL of them? Most definitely.

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Scot hit it right on the head with this one.

You should be pre-disqualifying women first. This was the key inner game attitude I finally "got" that really turned my game around.

I had been so busy trying to GET women that got stuck in "scarcity mode." (Something I completely break down and destroy in Ultimate Inner Game.)

A lot of guys are far too willing to let a woman in the front door of their life that could be the most chaotic and disruptive influence.

It's like a nightclub bouncer just letting in any riff-raff from the street.

Remember: Women are no different than men in that there are good ones and bad ones, and we must always be vigilant to choose the women that ADD to the quality of our lives.

For more of Scot McKay's Programs - CLICK HERE…

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How to Get Rid of Shame

I love being in my garden in the backyard of my house in San Francisco… It's a classic hidden oasis in the middle of a bustling international city. On sunny days I'll go back there and chillax beneath my favorite tree.

However, for some time now, I've been noticing that my tree isn't doing so well. In fact, week after week, it's been looking sicker and weaker. Bark has started to peel off, and branches are becoming dead and brittle. WTF?!

So this week I decided to take a closer look and I finally found the culprit:

A weed. A really big, vine-like, monster-sized weed that looked like it was choking the life out of my tree.

When I saw it, it was like I had caught a criminal: "A-ha! GOTCHA!"

So I grasped the weed and gave it a sharp tug. Then I gasped. All around me, the whole back yard seemed to shake!

This f***ing weed had worked it's way through every tree in my back yard!

It must have been there for years… at first just a small sprout at the base of the huge trunk. But it began to grow, slowly and imperceptibly wrapping itself around the trunk of the tree, making its way toward the top, unnoticed. Eventually it was completely restricting the tree, sufficating its growth… and doing this to almost every other plant in the yard.

This is similar to one of the most crippling "inner game" sticking points - it's incredibly elusive and hard to catch. And even though I find it to be THE single most common sticking point, nobody talks about it for two very big reasons:

1) By its very nature, like a weed on a tree, it is designed to blend in. Because we don't notice it, it doesn't show up in our awareness. And…

2) Nobody wants to admit the grip that this insidious element has on them. And so it continues to OWN them…

This Inner Game "weed" that I'm referring to is…

SHAME.

Yep. Shame. We feel shame when there is any part of ourselves that we don't fully and completely accept, any part of ourselves that we think is "wrong" or "bad" or "not good enough."

Shame grows gradually, mostly unnoticed, purposefully ignored, throughout our lives. It doesn't seem very important… until one day you wake up and realize it has become a monstrous weed choking your vitality, energy, self-image and especially…your connecting with women.

And that's only if you're aware enough to notice it in the first place! Otherwise, it's just a nagging feeling and a growing sense of frustration about how your ability to create attraction and connection with women feels squelched and "choked off"… and you don't know why!

The Ultimate Weed Whacker of Shame

However, there is one thing that I know of that is the ultimate "weed whacker" of shame:

Presence.

See, the weeds of shame don't like to be seen. Shame is designed to make you think there is no separation between "it" (the weed) and "you" (the tree).

With Presence, however, you can finally see how this sneaky little organism has worked its way all through your life, and you can you start pulling it out by the roots. Without Presence, shame can choke the life out of you, and your interactions with women.

Bryan Bayer
CEO, Authentic Man Program

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Most guys are unaware of just how much shame is ruining their inner game.

Let's face it - in the last 20-30 years, men have been put in the position of having their inner game crushed because media and society (and yes, to some degree, women) have made us ashamed of who we are and what we are as MEN.

Men are sexual creatures that love the look and form of women.

From naked boobies to the nether regions, women are just a treat and delight to behold - clothed or unclothed.

Does this mean we don't appreciate and cherish the INNER elements of femininity?

Absolutely not… We love the parts of women that make them so wonderful to be around. When a woman knows how to be feminine, I find it the most erotically exciting kind of interaction.

Weeding out any shame in your life should be a top priority for you, and something that I'm targeting in the new "Ultimate Inner Game" stuff I've got for you…

Stay tuned for more from our guest speakers in the next couple days… and a new video coming VERY soon…

It’s been said that:

“The illusion that one woman differs

from another is called– love.”

Who would be crazy enough to pay an inflated premium price for a depreciating product that is selling at its all time high; sold to you from a manipulative salesperson who wanted you to sign a contract stating that if you ever decided to default, it would cost you half of you assets and a garnishment of your income for years in the future? The answer is: the thousands of men that marry women every day!

What if I was even willing to tell you that the person selling the product knew ahead of time that it was highly addictive, and that the cost of goods sold (“COGS” for you accounting majors) was equal to zero, which translates to any price being pure profit - - Now how do you feel about it?

Women are selling themselves with the same sales pitch that is used for cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs that have expensive prices, cheap highs and a monopoly on an increasing price –which is the result of addiction to the product. They use what I call their “sexual sales pitch” in order to get you emotionally involved with them, which eliminates any sense of logic your friends and family might try to pound into your head.

It’s true, in its natural form, the word illusion means: to deceive one’s intellect. When are men at their most vulnerable point in their life and really feel they need someone to believe in them? The answer is between the ages of 20 to 30 as they are just starting a new career that they have been preparing for years. Wow! What a coincidence! That is exactly the same time frame that women are pitching their “product” in order to get what I call the “Ultimate Sale” - - Marriage!

I’ve always said that:

“Women are the Best

Salespeople in the World!

A Salesperson’s Greatest Challenges,

Mental Satisfaction,

And Highest Emotional Highs

are Created from Making a Sale

to Those Who Were NEVER Interested

to Begin with.

This is Why the Customers

That Don’t Look ‘Hungry’

Will Always Be Fed.”

You wouldn’t ever be dumb enough to keep chasing a used car salesperson and do business only when they had nothing better to do would you? So why would you even consider running after another salesperson trying to sell you her over-priced, depreciating product in the Social Marketplace? Her product probably already has too many miles put on it from all the other drivers who managed to blow her engine by “putting it to the test” and “seeing what that baby can do!”

I’m not saying to only drive cars with no miles on them (i.e. virgins) because some products such as boats, airplanes and helicopters, are actually more valuable when they have a year or so of experience than when they were first built because it proves that they function properly. Not to mention classic antique cars that are worth 100’s of times more than they were the year they were first made. All I am suggesting is that she have her best times and most fun when she is with you, not through memories of somebody else.

If men get to “buy into” all that expensive, depreciating, addictive, legally binding good stuff–what are women getting in return? They are buying into men at their all time lowest point financially, with the security of a steady paycheck, which will add to the appreciation of his net-worth (and hopefully early retirement—for her because women usually out live men!).

So let’s get this straight. Men buy into a physically attractive, depreciating woman at their all time “beauty high” (20-30 years old) after they have had all their fun with Jerks and offered much lower prices for more, emotional, mental and sexual service in the past. Because it was at its all time high, it now has nowhere to go but down. Women buy into financially appreciating men at their all time “financial low” (20-30 years old) and because it’s usually at its all time low, has nowhere to go but up. What a great deal! Where do I sign? - - NOT!

Street smart beautiful women don’t have to go to school and study incredibly boring subjects with hopes of getting out in the real world and finding a job. All they have to do is keep themselves physically attractive and wait for some Nice-guy to complete college and find a well paying career or start a business. All the while they are dating she gets to play a game of cat and mouse with him by leading him around by the nose and making him believe he’s chasing her. Then you’ll see the meaning behind the old female phrase that says: “I’ll let him chase me, till I catch him.”

Hmmm.

Ask an older woman about this phrase, I’m sure they’ve heard it before. Surprisingly enough, it’s usually the guy that brings up the idea of marriage by this time, and women have all they can do to keep from laughing.

The reason I say they are laughing is because it is equivalent to the customer selling himself on the product and closing himself on the deal without any effort on the part of the salesperson. It’s as if the salesperson was running around chasing other sales from prospective buyers and then when they realize that their time is running out (i.e. biologically clock is ticking), they finally settle for the best qualified buyer (with a good credit score and predictable income) that is still around.

To top it off, they even act like you’re bothering them. Then they act like they are doing you a favor by letting you pay for their product. Then when they’re done laughing all the way to the bank, they’re laughing all the way to a tropical vacation that you paid for. And you probably couldn’t go on the tropical vacation because you were too busy working in order to pay for the tropical vacation. She’ll probably be forced to settle for going on the trip with her girlfriends who are busy doing the same thing to their husbands and boyfriends.

Hello?

Do you see a pattern here?

This is why it’s important for women to have their own career, their own business and their own money. If women earn their own money they can appreciate the value of a dollar and more importantly you can worry a little less about them taking and abusing your money. I believe women are better at business because they are better at relationships and that’s what good business is built on. It’s definitely a better choice to be partners with a woman and have the advantage of putting all of her networking ability to use for you, rather than trying to go up against it.

I highly encourage women to use their great selling skills, negotiating techniques and persuasion power to good use in the business and make the world a better place. If you’re with a woman who uses her skills to sell and influence others in the business world you’ll be able to see her techniques up close and personal without the harmful side effects. The other good news is that you’ll also be able to see it coming a mile away because you’ll know what to look for. That way you can easily and playfully call her on any B.S. she might throw your way.

If there is one point you remember from this entire book, remember that in the Social Marketplace men are not the sales people who should be focusing on selling the benefits they have to offer such as college, a business, and a career but rather - - Women are the salespeople, and they are the best!

Forget about impressing a woman’s parents with where you work and what your Father does for a living because women are the ones with their biological clocks ticking because they know they’re not getting any younger!

Women are the ones that need to find a buyer for their depreciating product because just like on the high school track team, it’s not only the runners against each other, it’s the runners against the clock.

My grandfather told me years ago never to get married until I was at least 30 years old. At the time, I had no idea why he was telling me to wait for what I thought was an eternity. He already knew that the prices of women drop substantially around that age because women are more open and willing to give you a great deal on their product, the same way a used car salesperson is trying to unload this year’s model because next year’s new and improved “models” with a more sleek look and sexier appeal will be in the showroom soon.

Every woman on the planet lives in fear of the idea that every day they grow older and things on their body are starting to droop, wrinkle and sag. If they didn’t, then the cosmetic industry wouldn’t exist and plastic surgeons would go broke. I remember when I heard a President from one of the world’s leading cosmetic company’s saying in a press conference that he believes that her company doesn’t sell cosmetics, they sell “hope”.

Women know that every day the competition in the Social Marketplace is flooded with women with their young, hot and tight bodies coming into the local nightclub to celebrate their 21^st birthdays. That’s why women say things like: “Will you just look at that one over there with all the men around her, what a little slut.”

What she’s really saying is: “That young girl with the sexy body just increased the competition for every woman in here and decreased the attention I’ll be receiving from men. Now I’ll have to lower my expectations (i.e. price) to what man I can attract (i.e. sell my product to). As long as women are trying to sell us their product, we might as well respond and act like the smartest investors and consumers in the world:

Shop around. Play the field. The only thing that truly keeps prices down is competition. Keeping an uncommitted relationship helps keep you costs down because women are lowering their prices as they try desperately to plant themselves in your mind. Women already know men think about sex every 8 seconds, they just want to get enough air time for their product.

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CARLOS XUMA COMMENTS:

Thanks to FJ for this…

I always feel like slamming my book shut and saying, "Thus endeth the lesson" after I read from the Book of Jerk.

Seriously, though…

One of the reasons I chose FJ to be a big contributor to my Ultimate Inner Game is that he really understands this key difference in how the "Jerk" thinks versus how the "Nice Guy" thinks. And when you get it, this usually solves a bunch of problems upping your game with women.

Neither FJ nor I want you to think this is some kind of "rant" against women, or that there's some hidden anger here against women.

Not so at all.

The only anger I've got is that guys aren't snapping out of their old mindsets quickly enough and getting this thinking under their control.

Winning the inner game of attraction is easy - when you know how to play the inner game to win.

"hey what you think about peackcock theory of mystery, cause i like to use special hat even before to know about the pua, i think is veeery usefull to open, thats the sticking point of all the people."

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Well, believe it or not, this is an important INNER game question.

First of all, I always suggest that if something works for you - USE IT!

But always know WHY you're using it.

In other words, are you relying on your funny hat to do what you can be doing with your own personality? Or are you just in a situation where a little visual flair works to get people talking and interested?

I have my own peacocking items, too. But they're all personal to ME.

I have a pair of New Rock boots that are pretty cool, and I like to wear a special necklace when I go out. One or the other will eventually get attention.

But again, we Alpha Men are working towards the right goal - which is to be completely powered by our inner game, not slapping on some visual aids to make up for holes inside of us where we don't feel adequate.

I honestly feel like my personality is the craziest hat of all, and I wear that wherever I go. And often it's the silent knowledge that once I get going I'm going to have fun that gives me a calm sense of confidence in any situation.

Do you remember the kid at the playground that was always saying: "Look at me! Look at me!"

He got tiring. Pretty darn quick.

They say the empty can rattles the most, and this is so true.

So the two-prong advice I have for you is this:

1) If you need something to get you out there and opening women up for conversation, and it does the trick - then USE IT. Because being out there and talking to women is always better than NOT being out there.

2) Once you've evolved past this need, I suggest you get rid of the tricks. Because after a while, they become a crutch, and you'll find that your inner game will do much better when you are self-reliant and generating your Alpha Power from INSIDE.

What I see is that often times guys will use a quick gimmick - some outer game patch - to cover up the parts of them that they feel are inadequate or insecure about.

And that's a shame, because so many guys could be getting those areas TOTALLY fixed if they just do a few small things.

Most guys think that inner game work is the hardest, when in fact it's actually easier and more powerful than most of the routines out there.

Just remember, always ask yourself - WHY?

That's usually just as important as the WHAT.