CARLOS XUMA and Dating Dynamics

A lot of guys ask me how I got into this field of dating advice for men, so let me give you a little background...

I started out as a "natural." Yeah, that's the kind of guy you hate - the one that has no problem with women.

When I was in my early 20's, I had a naturally funny and teasing attitude with women, and my early successes had me feeling pretty cocky with my ability. And as a result, I had a lot of confidence with women.

Until disaster struck.

I had a relationship that turned sour on me, and I started getting all "Nice Guy." I started reading the self-help books by PhD.s that didn't know dick about how REAL attraction is built. They could only tell you that it should be this way, and all the rational crap that did NOT work. (Like telling a woman your true feelings for her.)

I remember being on a date where the girl actually pulled away when I went to hug her good night. I remember losing it on my balcony after they left, and I swore that I'd never go through that again.

I knew there was some kind of behavioral change I could make to fix this. I had to know how to make women attracted to me, or it was going to kill me.

I started reading all the books in the bookstore on the topic. When I realized they didn't have the information I needed (or even a clue for guys, really), I started looking for books that talked about "pickup," "seduction," and "techniques" - the forbidden information that you couldn't find anywhere else.

(I started this before there was an "Internet," mind you. :)

When I got as much as I could find (and that wasn't a lot) I started trying and experimenting with women and dating. I got rejected and blasted, and occasionally I also got some success. I watched why certain guys did the things they did and noticed how their behavior influenced and built strong attraction in women.

I wrote these books and CD and DVD programs, and then crammed them full of information that is practical, useful, and REAL. None of that "buy her roses/write her poems/tell her how you feel" crap.

I teach men how to attract women by being themselves - the confident and dominant men that really get women. I teach from a place of values and honor, and I'm proud to say that my material doesn't rely on manipulation or tricks to get you more dates and more women in your life.

Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you should have done?

You only get one shot at this life, so seize this opportunity.

It's time to start winning.

Invest in yourself and learn the strategies and mindset that will make you successful not just with women but in LIFE."

I salute you for the step you're about to take. I can honestly say that learning how to get this part of my life under my control has been the biggest step in my development as a man. And now you can get the benefit of this information, too.

If you're going to start with one program, I suggest you look at The Dating Black Book. This one e-book has changed thousands of men's lives - and now you can learn the basic strategies for attracting women into your life.

Carlos Xuma is a dating and attraction advisor, as well as a motivational and life counselor. He's the author of The Dating Black Book, Secrets of the Alpha Man, Approach Women NOW, the Alpha Immersion DVD program, the Advanced Audio Coaching Series (in its fourth year), and too many other articles to mention. He also produces a weekly podcast (available on iTunes) and a regular newsletter.

Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, technology and engineering, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.

Yes, you can call him a bit of a Renaissance Man.

Carlos' mission is to bring men and women together through awareness of both our traditional and contemporary gender roles. He conducts workshops and in-field training sessions, phone counseling, as well as group seminars.